On July 4, America will celebrate Independence Day. It’s known as the day America told England we’re taking our ball and bat and going away. And OBTW, we don’t want to play by your rules anymore.
So as the week goes by what tyranny are you saying good bye to?
Here’s my 5.
- TV commercials, magazines and any other messages that say unless I’m a size 0 I’m not sexy or worthy of love.
- Allowing others to define me. This week I don’t want to hear anything about you’re too upbeat, too straightforward, your personality is too big, or you’re got the right stuff to make it but I’m not going to help you because you’ll get it on your own. Oh this brings me to number 3.
- I declare independence from back handed compliments. You know the veiled compliments that are really slaps. “You’re so beautiful who would take you seriously in business?” Or “you’re so bold to let your natural gray show. Most women look old and tired”. But my favorite is this one “I’d call you but you’re too busy”. Really now! Is the fact that I am busy a good excuse for you not calling?
- I declare independence from feeling guilty because I didn’t get the WHOLE list of to do’s done. I know I’m an overachiever and I generally have too much on my plate. So why feel guilty. Instead I’m going to celebrate all that I do get done and add to the list something fun every day.
- I declare independence from the Super Woman Club. This goes hand in hand with overachieving and feeling guilty. In Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages, the second way to show love is through acts of service. By giving up my membership in the Super Woman’s Club I can allow others to help me and to express love for me by doing things for me. This week I want my friends and family to show me a bit of love by helping me get my to do list done and I’m going to accept their help with grace, style and appreciation.
So will you join me? What tyranny will you say no to? Share your thoughts here at the Station.
And while you’re doing so, enjoy a ice cold glass of your favorite drink. Put a umbrella in it to remind you to relax and enjoy your independence.
N Joy
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